The Toolbox Idea
Imagine a toolbox filled with a hammer, screwdriver, wrench, pliers, etc. When something breaks, you search for the right tool in your toolbox. Each tool has its own purpose; for instance, a hammer and a plunger have obvious different uses. If my toilet clogged, and I used my plunger, I would be happy that the tool I chose solved the problem. If I then attempted to use that same tool for hanging a picture on the wall, I would become frustrated that it was not working, my belief of the plunger being helpful may change based on this failure, and I may even give up trying to hang the picture, despite simply needing to use a different tool.
There’s a reason that toolboxes are important to have for your home. Not one tool can fix everything. Apply this principle to your mind. You must have a toolbox of coping skills to handle different stresses, and learning what coping skill to use and when will help you fix your broken mind.
What does it mean to have a “broken mind?”
No matter who you are, if you have a mental health diagnosis or not, the way you process your thoughts can “make or break you.” The good news is that broken minds are fixable.
You can learn to think better! If I asked you to describe learning how to think through a negative situation, could you tell me? If I asked you to describe how you would teach a child how to tie their shoes, could you?
More often than not, and through no one’s fault, we aren’t taught how to think through our stress. We learn as we go, and we might have picked up some bad thinking habits. Processing negative emotions has been a battle since childhood. Young toddlers have temper tantrums, teens become defiant, adults feel lost…. you get the picture. If you’re reading this, know that your bad thinking habits are temporary because I can help you change your perspective and gain better thinking habits to cope with the stresses of life! I cannot make your problems go away, but I can help you fill your toolbox with the right tools and give you the know-how to use them!